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I Want A Better Life...NOW
How
To Stop Sabotaging Your Life and Move Forward
Every day, almost everywhere
we look we're bombarded with someone else's idea of perfection.
We're told, "You
need this," "You should wear this" and "You
need to be this way or that way," but no one tells us
that we're just fine.
In
this society of "whoever has the most toys wins," no
one really does.
A perfect example of self-sabotage is the story Madame Bovary.
It's a story about a woman who has it all: a loving and devoted
husband, wonderful children, a beautiful house, public standing
and respect, and a family who loves her dearly.
When she was young, she went to a fancy ball at a count's
home. For the rest of her life she compared everything to that
one night. Nothing she ever had was enough. She cheated on
her husband and ran them into debt to fill the hole in her
life that she, herself, had created.
In the end, she ruined herself and her family all because
nothing was ever good enough for her.
We do that to ourselves with negative thinking about our bodies,
wanting more things, and trying to make ourselves something
we aren't. We watch TV and movies and see perfection: the perfect
romance and the dashing hero saving the damsel, where everyone
is beautiful, heroic and perfect.
That's fiction. We need to learn to accept ourselves and enjoy
the good things we have in our own lives. That's reality and
the only way to really love one's self.
Here
are a few areas where you may be comparing yourself to others.
You'll find out how to get away from
the "societal
norm" so you can be on your way to loving yourself for
who you are.
Your Body
Hollywood would have us think that everyone is tanned, skinny,
fit and has perfect hair, teeth and skin. But it's all a facade!
You can't compare yourself to that imagined picture of beauty.
Your personal beauty comes from inside you. Write down the
things that you love about yourself. If you're overweight and
unhappy about it, then do something! Change how you eat or
get out and walk a little everyday. Not everyone is a supermodel,
nor is everyone supposed to be.
Your Career
If you're stuck in a job you hate, find a new one. If your
work is making you physically ill, it's time to move on. That
misery you feel will carry over to the rest of your life.
Figure out what you love doing and then find a way to get
paid to do it. It's not easy, and it might not happen overnight,
but if you love what you do, your entire life outlook improves.
Your Possessions
We're bombarded with ads for stuff and they all look so amazing.
We find ourselves wanting more and more things, but do we really
need them? Possessions won't fill any personal void you have
or provide you with true happiness.
What is it you're missing in your life? Figure that out and
then fill that need, but be honest and realistic with yourself
about it.
Your Relationship
If you're in a healthy relationship and you're truly in love
for several decades, then you're very blessed. In reality,
as a relationship goes on for months and years, it may not
be that whirlwind of romance anymore, and you can't always
expect your partner to be breathtaking.
Yet, no matter what you see on TV, a relationship always takes
work and sacrifices. Think of ways to make your relationship
feel new and exciting, and take joy in the fact that you have
someone who loves you.
Your Past
The past is just that - the past. You can't do anything about
the past, except learn from it. You can't base your life around
a singular event no matter how great or terrible it was. All
you can do is remember and learn from it.
Don't let something that happened eat you up and destroy your
future. Instead, think about how you can become better from
it, and then make the commitment to move forward.
Love Yourself
Lastly, remember that you are who you are. Everyone is supposed
to be different; it's what makes you special. There's no one
in the world who is exactly like you and that makes you special,
unique and amazing.
Talk to the people who care about you. They can help you see
yourself the way they do. This can help you understand why
they love you and why you should love yourself.
Heed these tips to find a renewed satisfaction in yourself,
your loved ones, and your life. You'll be glad you did!
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