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The Expecting Mom: Dad's Duties
What
can the expecting dad do to make his wife’s pregnancy more
enjoyable for all? There is plenty. Bond
with your partner and make her feel good about her body and
self. Make sure to let her know what is going on in your mind.
Good communication is key during the pregnancy. Talk to one
another and have together time. This will let you both know
you are still in love and bring you closer.
It is important that you both know
each other well. Once the
baby comes, she might be feeling apprehensive about her new
role as a mom. Talk it out. Make sure you talk about your worries
with your partner and listen to hers. This will help keep communication
open and stay in tune with each other. Make it a two-way street.
Use this time to listen and speak, exchange ideas, worries
and laughs.
Many women find that they have different
sex drives with each pregnancy, so if she isn’t in the mood this time don’t be bummed
out, it could be different next time. It is better not worry
about whether your sex life has gone down or up and just focus
on intimacy. It is different for all women and men. Some feel
renewed with their new bodies and having to use no birth control,
while others just feel awful. Make sure you have some intimacy
bond, and make sure she knows you aren’t mad if she just can’t
have sex right now. Talking with her you might find she thinks
it is a great opportunity to try new things and experiment
with new positions. Many men have no problem with having sex
while pregnant. For many men the fact that their wife is carrying
their child is the most spectacular thing in the world and
they can’t be close enough to them. They want the intimacy
and crave to be sexually close to their wives. On the other
hand there are men who get a bit freaked out. They are afraid
of hurting their wives with sex or can’t imagine “desecrating”
a pregnant woman. Some men find the ever-changing pregnant
body not as appealing, like it serves a different function
now. Open communication and listening to each other is very
important during this time. If it is you who just can’t know,
talk with her and let her know your fears so she doesn’t think
you find her gross or unappealing.
Keep
a sense of humor, if things don’t work the first time
try new stuff and try again. There is a good chance that you
will find sex even better than ever and she could even experience
multiple orgasms. Her breasts might be very sensitive right
now so be sure to ask your wife what feels good and what is
too much. For those men living with ladies who either can’t
or just have no desire for sex, there are many other ways to
be intimate and stay close to your partner. Cuddling, kissing,
massage, caressing each other, or what ever else you like can
be just as good. No matter what happens to your sex life during
pregnancy, it’s important to keep the lines of communication
open. Talk and listen to each other and communicate what you
want and need, and be respectful and receptive to your partners
needs too. There are other ways to create intimacy during pregnancy.
Treat
her to a massage. Give her a great rub down with coco
butter. This will melt her worries away and reduce the chance
for stretch marks. Many women and men will go to classes on
massage instead. This allows you to be able to massage your
wife anytime she may need it. The couple is trained on what
kind of massage is good and what should be avoided. This allows
you, the dad-to-be, to help relax mom when she is uncomfortable
and during labor. Many women love and appreciate even light
touch from their partners during labor. They find it relaxing
and easing, in turn have a better labor with less anxiety and
need for medication. This type of massage also allows couple
to have more intimacy as the pregnancy progresses. In this
case the massage benefits the entire couple and not just the
receiver. The more that you practice at home, the more you
know what feels good to her. This will make you a much better
labor coach and you will already know what works for her and
be confident that you are helping.
Massage is something a couple can benefit from all the time.
Not just during pregnancy but also in the postpartum period.
This is a trying time and the addition of a new baby and not
being able to have sex can be trying on a couple. Using massage
can help couples stay connected to each other and have some
form of intimacy. Parents can also massage the baby, which
is highly recommended. Many childbirth classes have a section
of pregnancy and infant massage. So this can really help you
pamper your wife but also be used to pamper you as well. # # # # #
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