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eLearning Series: Learning Disabilities
The Bottom Line On Learning Disabilities
( 50 articles in this series )
How
to Help Kids
Raise Their Confidence and Self-Esteem
A child with high self-esteem is a child who
can trust others, and feels secure and accepted in their social
circle. They have been taught to know their self-worth and
can face challenging situations with a high confidence and
better attitude. It will also keep them from allowing them
to be bullied or threatened by others. In the same token, it
will prevent them from being bossy and controlling of his or
her peers because they will be capable and have respect of
another person’s wishes and needs. They will be able to make
and keep friends much easier and not feel the need to be like
everyone else, which is especially important for those children
with learning disabilities.
When
you teach your child how to have self-esteem, spend plenty
of time with them while they engage in their activities. Praise
him or her for good choices and allow him or her to make choices
alone to prove that you can trust them. When the child makes
a poor decision, explain the consequences of what they do.
This way, they understand you are not mad, just that every
action has a consequence. Good choices produce positive outcomes
and negative choices produce bad outcomes. Tell your child
that they are good, but their choice was not the best it could
be. Discuss what they could have done and what they should
do in the future. Stay calm and allow direct conversation and
acknowledge your child’s emotions. This will help them realize
that it is okay to feel a certain way but they must know how
to appropriately express it. Avoid over criticizing your child
and don’t rush to save them from frustrating situations. Give
your child some time to make good decisions for themselves.
Assigning
chores that are age appropriate can also boost a
child’s self-esteem. It gives them a sense of contribution
to the home and family. Make sure you thoroughly show the child
what is expected and allow them to do it on their own. Praise
them for a job well done and thank them for helping. Children
love feeling needed and important. By making them responsible
for their own room and other small chores their confidence
rises. Try not to jump in and help him or her if they aren’t
doing them perfectly. Let them have the time to accomplish
them on their own. Over time they will become better and better.
As your child gets into adolescence their self-esteem may begin
to drop. This is normal and apart of the dramatic changes taking
place. Make sure you have explained what he or she should expect
during puberty and that all the changes are normal. It is important
for them to know everyone goes through the same thing. Be there
to reassure him or her as much as possible and don’t allow
them to shut you out. This will enable you to help keep their
esteem high and build their confidence level.
When
adolescents have a high self-worth, they tend to believe
in themselves better. They have self-respect, respect for others,
and a sense of importance and belonging. Self-esteem allows
a child or teen to deal with new tasks and challenges head
on and with confidence. They interact better with others as
well. If a teen has low self-esteem, they may be prone to give
up too easily or cheat when they can’t get their way or get
frustrated. All kids at any age thrive for attention and want
love and appreciation. It is important for parents to remember
to give a “well done” or “excellent” to their kids regularly.
It is too easy to tell them what they are doing wrong, but
it should be just as easy to tell them what they are doing
right. Good mental health and good self-esteem go hand in hand.
By promoting your child to feel better about themselves will
keep them mentally healthy. By taking an active role early
and later in helping build you child’s self-esteem and confidence
you give your child a lifetime of blessings and benefits. The
child will be capable of acting independently and be able to
assume responsibility for them. They can take pride in their
accomplishments and will be able to accept good praise for
their efforts. Teens and children with high self-esteem handle
frustration and peer pressure better than one who have low
self-esteem. They will be willing to try new things and handle
their emotions better. It is never too much work to help your
child have the best self-image possible.
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by SolveYourProblem.com
: 2006
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