Good Looking Girl = Low Self Esteem

Hi There,

I have just started playing the players game recently and on one of your articles you mentioned that women with low self-esteem tend to be the really good-looking ones. Can you explain why this is so?

Cheers!

Hello!

Actually, what I stated was just the opposite. I didn’t say that women with low self-esteems tend to be good looking; I said that extremely good-looking women tend to have low self-esteems. I differentiate this because not all women with low self-esteems are good looking!

But, to the point: the reasons for this are many.

The most common is that really good-looking women get TOLD they are really good looking all the time! They use their looks to open doors that average or less than average looking women can't. They don't have to build their personalities or intellects. Further, they know that their looks will fade some day.

Another reason for this is that it takes so much energy to look good! They have to work out all the time, they have to take care of their skin and their hair, they have to obsess over every little blemish! This creates a "look focus" in their personalities and they become overly aware of their faults - more than the average looking woman.

These reasons, (and a ton more) cause really good-looking women to have less strong self-images.

The important thing about this fact however is that you can use it to your advantage! I've told guys all sorts of tricks that will help build you up in a beautiful woman's eyes. The first of these is to never compliment a beautiful woman on her looks. The reason for this is that is likely all she has! She's used to hearing it from every jackass out there. If YOU are the guy that doesn't, you're going to stand out!

As well, she's going to start trying to get you to compliment her! If you hold off, she'll start chasing you to get that compliment. You can just keep escalating this to whatever goal you have with her.

Best regards...

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