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Another Lying, Using Bitch!

Dennis,

I have been with my girlfriend for over 9 months now, she recently went back home a few weeks ago and one night I was drunk and having a bad night, and messed around with another girl. I did not have sex with her and I stopped it before it went any further, I told my girlfriend. I admitted to it and swore that I would rather die then do it again. She was raped a week or so later and I was heartbroken. However, she hasn't told anyone except me, and these guys she’s been hanging out with.

After the incident, she spent 2 nights at his house (her friend, mike, who she says is like a 'brother' to her but has known for only a few weeks, and his two roommates), in his bed, but supposedly he was in the living room on the futon. She came back a few days ago and we really opened up to each other, she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, and I feel the same way, but we both want to wait until its the right time.

Only problem being is that she’s hanging out with this guy every free moment, she stays out with him until 12-2 am every night, and is a totally non-responsive person every time that I call her and she’s with him. When she came back I checked her text messages and found one from him saying 'Love you baby', she says its just the way he is, and that she only loves me and wants to be with me. Yet, she knows that this is killing me, but hangs out with him all the time. She is in Pittsburgh and I'm in Philly and she’s telling me she needs sometime before she can come back. She swears to me that she isn't cheating on me, but yet I'm dying because I know she’s spending every free moment hanging out with him.

Please help, I don't know who else to turn to, I'm hurting so badly.

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Hello!

Holy crap! What a mess this is! Let's see here: a long distance relationship (a no-no), you admitted being with someone else to her even though nothing happened (a big no-no), she's spending all her time in some other guy's bed (a HUGE no-no), and you want everything to be ok?

Ok, here's your very first step. Now, pay attention because this is important:

PULL YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS!!

I don't care what Ms. Sweetcheeks tells you she's doing, she is BANGING this guy! There is no two ways about it! Of course, SHE did the "right thing" by not telling you this, but you just spilled your guts! What in the hell are you thinking anyway, man?

She tells you that she needs something before she comes back? Let me guess what that is: she wants you to propose to her, right? If you do this, you have lost all rights to ever contact me again! You'll have made your own living hell, and you'll just have to live with it. Whatever you do, DO NOT propose to this woman! You'll be stuck in a marriage even worse than you can imagine.

Look, here are the rules you need to get straightened out in your mind:

1) NEVER tell any woman that you've been with someone else behind her back! Not only does this give her the ok to do the same thing to you, but more important, men often do this to try to alleviate their own guilt! Of course, this never works. You still feel just as guilty as before, but now, you have to try to make it all up to her. Further, you've caused damage to her self-image.

2) NEVER accept that your woman has these "male buddies" that she hangs around with all the time. It's just not the way it is! You'd have to be a complete jackass to believe that nothing is going on!

3) NEVER get yourself into a long-distance relationship situation! These never work out for a thousand and one reasons I'm not going to go into.

Here's why you SHOULD do:

1) Dump this lying, using bitch right this minute. Do not write her, do not call her, do not contact her in any way.

2) Move on! Get yourself out there and back into the game.

3) Stop being a clingy, scared jerk, and start to see things as they really are.

I wish these things for you!

Best regards...

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