Difference Between Northern/Southern Girls

Dr. Neder,

I was reading one of your articles, and found some advice you gave to a guy with only an email address of a girl. I sent the same email to a girl I’m interested in.

I live in North Carolina, and I'm not sure that some things that work say up north or out west will work in the south. Southern women are just different; they are spoiled bitches to be honest. Asking an 18-22 year old girl to go for coffee just doesn't fit for this culture it seems.

I may be wrong, but I asked a girl from New Jersey who moved here in the last few years and she said a lot of the things that people will accept up north, would be considered weird here. I'm just trying to get your opinion on different cultures. Imagine yourself asking a southern country girl so to speak, to go out for coffee. It's just not common here.

Thanks! I do appreciate you taking the time to respond to me one on one.

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Hey Brother!

What makes Southern women different? Do they have penises?

No, believe me, Southern women ARE NOT different! Well, maybe in one way: Northern women say, "You can!" whereas Southern women say, "Y'all can!"

Ok, enough with the jokes.

The only difference is perception. Let me give you an example.

A few months ago I met this woman from Georgia in a local bar. We spent the better part of an evening drinking and talking. At one point in the conversation, she complained that she hadn't been able to get any dates since she'd been here, (in Los Angeles). At the end of the evening, I said, "Give me your home phone number so I can call you and we can continue this some other time." I then opened my wallet to give him my card.

She said, "Oh, I'm from the South, I don't give out my home phone number!" To which I replied, "Oh, maybe that's why you can't get a date!" Then, I pulled my business card out of her hands and turned and walked out of the bar.

As I approached my car, I heard her voice behind me, "Dennis! Dennis!" she shouted as she ran up behind me. I turned around and she shoved her number that she wrote on a napkin into my hands, kissed me on the cheek and said, "You'll call me, right?"

You see, no woman - Northern or Southern wants to be alone the rest of her life. So, don't prejudge anyone's responses. You can only judge your own.

Best regards...

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