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Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
Working
Bars and Clubs
Hey Boss!
I got your book
and I learned a lot from it but what I don't understand is this,
a lot of loser guys try to pick up women in horrible fashion
so when some girl hears you speak to her she right away puts
you in the loser category, (with those guys). So I was wondering
how could you make these girls feel comfortable with you in
the first few minutes of meeting her?
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Hey Brother!
Thanks for the
comments on the book. We continue to get great reviews from
all over!
The most likely
situation is that you're working the wrong rooms. This sounds
like you're talking about clubs and bars, and yes, you're going
to get a lot of "same as" from women there - that's
exactly what they're expecting in those places.
When women go to
clubs and bars, they have their "bitch shields" firmly
in place. You need to know this ahead of time as it's going
to change your approach - and success - dramatically. I suggest
that a real player avoid these places all together other than
to just practice. In most places, the bartenders get more play
than the customers do!
If you're really
looking to stand out in a place like this, you're going to have
to do some work. The first step is to dress extremely well.
That means at least a suit, or a nice pair of slacks and an
expensive, stylish shirt. Some nice jewelry is a good choice
too - at least an expensive looking watch, but don't overdo
it either. Make sure your shoes are polished and look good.
This means no tennis shoes.
Everything you
do at a club or bar is designed to separate you from the pack.
Your approach has to be super smooth, your confidence very high
and your targets specific and direct. Don't make AFC mistakes
like trying to buy drinks, telling women they look great, using
pick-up lines, etc.
In fact, I'd just
suggest that you avoid these places all together, other than
just as a watering hole for you and your friends. Just about
anywhere else is a better choice!
Best regards...
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